Communing with your significant dead is what it amounts to, and that is an exhausting thing.Not unpleasant, but still hard work." ~ Martin Amis, on BBC's website about writing one's memoirs"Every American may be working on a screenplay, but we are also continually updating a treatment of our own life - and the way in which we visualize each scene not only shapes how we think about ourselves, but how we behave, new studies find.I started out the way I was raised, in the old-time mountain style, and Ive never wavered from it. I think that means a whole lot to the audience the people knows exactly what to expect. As everyone has said, something happens in that booth, where your very private thoughts that rumble around in your head and your memories suddenly come forth, and the voice that Dave just talked about, thats your soul.Old-Timer, Still Telling Mountain Tales Charles Mc Grath, NYTimes, about Ralph Stanley, old-time mountain music artist, and his new memoir, Man of Constant Sorrow: My Life and Times, written with Eddie Dean My Words Are Gonna Linger: The Art of Personal History , ed. "At last, a collection that shows the "why, what, and how" behind memoir as legacy. Somehow it reaches down and touches that part of us thats not often touched....Then seeing important events in my life and racing in print, I understood why it's so easy for me to bond with the fansmost people's lives are about dealing with disappointment, broken promises, and failed dreams, as well as great joy and satisfaction.I've lived the Great American Dream on the tracks, but I've lived the Great American Nightmare in the garages, too.We remember a vivid person, a remark, a sight that was unexpected, an occasion on which we felt something profoundly. We become more exalted in our memories than we actually were, or less so.
"I started out on this project, viewing it as a way to leave something for my children.He added: It was a lot of remembering, and sometimes it took a while to remember what happened and how, but it got done. Stanley says he feels certain now, is that he never changed.Some of the memories maybe wasnt like Id like to have, but I wanted it to be just like it was. I give myself credit for being in this business for so long, he said." ~ Frank Bruni, Memoirs and Memory (by the author of Born Round: The Secret History of a Full-time Eater Families are united more by mutual stories -- of love and pain and adventure -- than by biology. I'd just turned 50 and I assumed it was just age, but I didn't want to get out of bed in the morning and I had the most delicious lie-ins of my life!It was just sheer emotional exhaustion, I now realise.
I've really forgiven people in my life and forgiven myself. "This is the truest thing anyone can do," says Pat Lee, quoted in the story "Library helps memoirists tell their story" (Alex Parker, Chicago Tribune 10-16-09) I wanted it to sound natural, he said.