After monitoring exchanges on internet Asperger groups, and looking at the results of two surveys I conducted as a student, it is clear that many adults with Asperger Syndrome desire friendship, sex and lasting relationships.However they often do not receive necessary information and help with dating and intimacy skills.A good knowledge of Asperger Syndrome is vital in helping a partner to realise that their partner sees the world in a very different way and will not radically change, but that this may be OK. (2008) Love, Sex and Relationships – What People with Asperger Syndrome Really Really Want. It also takes an acceptance by the partner with Asperger Syndrome of the different thought processing that the condition brings.
People with Asperger’s Syndrome who are sexually active (or who’d like to be) are interested in physical pleasure and release, as well as some form of emotional connection. However, people with AS may express emotion or feelings of closeness in a way that is not generally expected.Those with Asperger Syndrome may communicate more for functional reasons rather than small talk and may feel overwhelmed after a day at work and require solitude. Understanding of the needs of each partner can help to find compromises which ensure these needs are met. They also may need emotional reassurance as they struggle to understand their partner's signals of commitment and caring.There is some indication that for some Aspies, long term relationships and people in their lives can be like features in the landscape, valued and relied upon for continuity and familiarity.
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