Because this meant I cared far more than he did – and we both knew it. Sadly, many of my girlfriends have had similar experiences. Guys can get freaked out and feel pressured if you lavish gifts upon them too early in a relationship. If you feel oddly compelled to give something, bake him some homemade banana bread or a pie. A card is necessary, a token is nice but not mandatory.
" The best case scenario is that they say something like "Oh, probably just doing X with my friends," which makes it clear that you won't be really expected to join in or participate—which is fine.You aren't that serious yet, so preferring to spend a birthday with friends is totally normal. Possibly, your date will mention a party or get-together to which you'll be invited.If you go, treat it as you would the birthday of a friend you very much like: bring a card, buy them drinks, etc.Or the worst — what if one person presents a gift and (gasp! I realize I am generalizing here, but in my experience, women have a tendency to go a wee bit overboard when it comes to giving presents. AVOID: Lingerie, jewelry, clothing, cologne, stuffed animals (we are grown women), a vibrator, anything sexual actually, the latest incarnation of World of Warcraft. At the end of the day, you know your not-significant other better than I do (because I don’t know them at all), so if you just KNOW she would go gaga over a Target gift card (cough) or you are POSITIVELY CERTAIN he would adore a frilly framed photo of the two of you (you sure, girl? This is merely a loose guide for the frustrated and clueless, and it gives you somewhere to start.A few years ago I went out of my way, searched high and low and spent far too much of my paycheck on a thoughtful gift for a guy I had been casually dating for several months (he kept saying didn’t want to “rush it”). Now, I realize some of you may be scoffing, saying to yourself, these ideas suck! Above all, keep in mind that while gift giving to new flames can be stressful, it is indeed a problem of the first world order.
If you're invited to a more intimate celebration, such as dinner at a restaurant with friends, don't feel obligated to attend.