He said no but when I returned and reported that the bartender had generously comped my seltzer, he said he wished he’d known or he’d have ordered one!
A man who refuses to pay, or even offer, as one of her dates did, is making a statement with his wallet.
(Guys: don’t do this.) Yet the who-should-pay decision is a conundrum, as dating and relationship expert Wendy Newman, author of "121 First Dates: How to Succeed at Online Dating, Fall in Love, and Live Happily After (Really!
)," calls it, one that often leaves both men and women not completely satisfied.
“When a man pays for a string of dates for strangers and experiences entitlement or isn't thanked or appreciated for these efforts it can burn him out.
When a woman isn't treated, often times she doesn't feel special or cared for,” said Newman.
D., he makes the case for the man buying, because, as the pair write, women “are unconsciously looking for signals of your kindness, generosity, and material proof.