Furthermore, when one marries another Jewish person, the chances of a familys Jewishness lasting increase exponentially.For many people, especially in their late teens and early twenties, dating and marriage seem quite disconnected.The first reason to date Jewish people is then clear you never know when youll fall in love. The great medieval Jewish sage known as Maimonides explained that it is better to give one dollar one hundred times than to give one hundred dollars all at one time. After all, the same amount of money is being given.The explanation forms the basis for much of Jewish religious thought.Only 11% of the children of intermarriage would be "very upset" if their kids did not regard themselves as Jews.Less than 10% of the children of intermarriage themselves marry Jews.Whatever they agreed to previously, within 4-5 years of marriage, people often realize that they also value the traditions they were brought up with. In intermarriages involving one Jew and one non-Jew, the sad reality is that study after study confirms that the vast, vast majority of intermarried families, Jewishness simply doesnt last.Even amongst families where the kids are being raised as "Jews only," 79% celebrate Christmas in some form.
Giving once, even a lot of money, will not have the same effect. I kept a lot of small change on me and for a month whoever asked was given at least a small coin. Even if you are not presently ready to get married, if you want to marry Jewish, dating non-Jews is still a bad idea because the more you date non-Jews, the more the idea of intermarriage seems normal. Already in the 1971 National Jewish Population Survey, researchers discovered the important but often overlooked statistic that Jews who intermarried were about four times more likely to have dated non-Jews during their late adolescent period than were those who did not intermarry.At the time I was just going out and enjoying myself" The quotes you just read are from real people, recounted in John Mayers book Jewish-Gentile Courtships.It was published in 1961, but the quotes could have been from any time or place.The causes for this tensions range from disagreements about which holidays to observe, which religious tradition to bring the kids up in, different embedded religious and cultural attitudes towards money and a host of other connected factors, and more.These "time bombs," lead to higher divorce rates (sometimes twice as high! With far fewer long-term problems to deal with, same-faith marriages have a much higher chance of being happy and successful than comparable intermarriages.
In intermarriages, children sense and see a lack of unity between parents and it often hurts them deeply.