It’s important that you respect each other’s values and boundaries.
If you’re not compatible in this area, the relationship will only hit roadblock after roadblock.
Unfortunately, many Indian men who sleep with their girlfriends still hope to marry a virgin.
Talk about sexual boundaries and expectations early on, and be cautious about moving forward physically if your relationship has elements of the traditional in it. Conversely, if sex is important to you in a dating relationship, your date needs to know that.
Obviously I haven’t dated much in India, two men isn’t enough to make a truly convincing case on the subject, so my experience level is low.
But I hear time and time again from dear friends who really do LIKE me as a person and care about me something along the lines of “Indian men want to take a foreigner out for a drive but they will drive home an Indian woman to marry.” So that mixed with my first experience dating an Indian man who told me straight-up from the start that we “have no future” because of the pressure from his family and the media due to his profession …
Normally it never bothers me at all but this time it did.Share your heritage and family traditions with your date, too.Determine if your lifestyles and values are compatible. If you’re both Indian, don’t take tradition for granted. ) Be sure to talk about what being Indian means to you in practical, everyday terms.If you are a regular reader of my blog I’m sure you will be happy to learn that in January – after about 18 months – I finally met a SINGLE smart, handsome Indian power guy (ahhhh the best kind!) who I basically fell head-over-heels coo coo for ‘at first sight’ and we started dating.
Just because your Indian dating experience is far from that, there are likely some expectations about gender roles and the progression of a dating relationship. Should the man be asking the woman’s father for permission to date her?