It is challenging to have a relationship with a person that has borderline personality disorder (BPD), especially since one of the hallmarks of the disorder is unstable relationships.
Yet, if your partner or spouse has the disorder, you probably want to do everything you can to maintain the relationship.
You need to have a realistic understanding of your partner's behavior and your role in his life as "caretaker." Also, you also need to keep in mind that your partner may never learn to meet your emotional needs. Your loved one has to be committed to healing himself with the help of therapy.Creating a plan on how to deal with the behaviors ensures that you are not feeding the symptoms of the disorder by ensuring you stay calm in the midst of an issue.You will also be able to reinforce better, productive behaviors. They yell, threaten suicide (and are sometimes serious), accuse, blame, and are highly defensive.People with BPD will often attack you aggressively or get highly defensive, and people often feel like they are dragged to extremes as they are manipulated and guilted into different emotional states and actions they don't feel comfortable doing.Learning about the disorder will help you understand how your loved one experiences things.
To establish trust and influence in your partner's life, complimenting your partner for even little things they do that are noteworthy may surprise you and go a long way.