Within two months, you’ve had “the discussion” and have defined an exclusive relationship! There will be ups and downs, weeks where you have many dates, and weeks where you have none. One of the many reasons I love being a divorce website writer and dating columnist is that almost every time I meet someone new and they find out what I do, they ask me for either dating or divorce advice, or in the case of two nights ago, dating after divorce with kids advice.
That includes great head-to-toe shots as well as of you and only you! The horse that’s winning on the first lap might break its leg and might need to be taken out of the race.
Once you have a road map of a partner that makes you happy, give attraction and chemistry a chance to develop, even if it takes five or more dates to figure it out.
After you feel the chemistry, look carefully for the “interior” traits that count, like kindness, reliability, consistency, honesty and intelligence first. Is this person willing to accept you, your complexities, maybe your children? Are you on the same page with regards to finances, parenting, living situations, marriage or more kids?
Waiting until you are exclusive is a great way to stay the happy course!
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Dating after divorce isn’t easy, and will require a great group of people surrounding you to keep you motivated and inspired!