“I asked my friend to describe me, and here’s what he wrote…” is a cop-out.By writing this in your profile, you’re telling people that you’re not smart or self-aware enough to write it yourself.This makes sense since we’re so used to communicating via text with everyone else in our lives. You realize all of your recent pictures are selfies, with friends or even worse – with your ex.
Specific information does more than make you sound interesting – it also gives potential dates something to write to you about.See it all as experience, not as proof that you’re a loser (or that everyone else is a loser).Learn from your bad and boring dates and try again.Second, they sound like an exact description of the writer’s ex.Don’t even think about posting a dating advert without a photo. You meet, and the blood drains from their face as they realise that your photo was taken 10 years, five stone and 500 wrinkles ago. You don’t have to write someone an epic love letter (please don’t) – just pick out a couple of appealing points in their ad and write a quick intro email. Some rookies assume that they must answer every email, even if it’s “thanks, but no thanks”. “Thanks but no thanks” can feel more hurtful than no reply.
Most living grown-ups have a history of exes, hang-ups and maybe a nervous breakdown or two. They know that you have a past, but they don’t want to hear about it. Some online dating profiles read like shopping lists.