How would you respond if they presented it to you as a reasonable situation? If you can’t have both people in your life, perhaps the real measure of your love for them is to let them both go.Would you be able to accept that their affection or sexual attraction to someone else didn’t take anything away from their love for you or would you be threatened? Accepting that you cannot choose, you set them free and if one comes back to you it was meant to be.Lust is usually quite instant and can have a similar effect on the brain to cocaine as sexual attraction hormones are released into the body.Lust is often confused with love because it’s so intense and all-consuming.Once a strong connection is developed couples will usually become exclusive.But what if you develop a deep affection for two people and can’t choose between them?
If you and your partner have decided to have an open relationship, it’s important that you both agree on what that means.If neither come back then perhaps you are meant to be with someone new who you grow to love on such a deep level that you only have eyes for them. I have fun with both of them, and they both show signs of being a godly husband.When you’re in a committed relationship and develop a strong attraction to someone outside of it, you’ll probably feel very confused and question your commitment to your partner.Before you act on your feelings ask yourself, is it love that you’re feeling or lust?
What's more likely is that as you get to know these men as friends, one will emerge as the man you're more drawn to (or possibly you'll realize neither is a good fit for marriage).