“Think about something that you shared together that might warm her heart.” Example: If she responds, she may be open to rekindling the spark. You romanced her once already, but that doesn’t mean you get to go from zero to 60 without even getting behind the wheel. Says Seattle-resident Adria, who took her ex back after a nasty breakup: “He apologized out of the blue after three months of no contact and was very respectful of me. Ask what she’s been up to, how work is going, if her dog is still peeing on the couch—whatever.
So here are 10 tips on how to approach her for Round Two. Reconnect with a text: Sometimes absence makes the heart grow fonder—but other times, it causes that heart to seek out another man. “Try sending a sweet text, not one that will make her think you’re looking for a booty call,” says dating expert Julie Spira. “It will give you the chance to get together in a relaxed environment, without too much pressure.” But remember, accepting your invite is just that—and not a sure sign she wants to get back together. Tell her you miss her: If she accepts your date invite, ease in.
I hope the above advice has given you a push in the right direction to recovery.
It’s not necessarily too late to rekindle the love with your ex—but don’t get rash and make any mediocre moves. Let her hear your voice and register some sincere effort on your part.
Click here for Oprah’s advice on getting over a breakup.
Other than exercise, you can spend your time making new friends (preferably male), exploring a new hobby or getting back into an old one, learning a new skill (like a foreign language), or taking classes.
When you do respond, tell her about all the productive things you’ve been doing. She’ll start thinking about the reasons other women are interested in you. After you’ve been talking for a few days, be direct and just ask her on a date.