And while those micro-decisions seem unimportant, they add up and do matter, because you’re only as good as the profile you craft.
So how do you create the kind of online identity that will land you a first date?
After interviewing over 60,000 single men and women over the years there’s a few common things I can say men really find attractive in women.
Men like and notice confidence, attractiveness, independence and acknowledgement from women.
The researchers note that people are either ignored or pursued based on a quick look-over of a profile, so while a good photo matters, a good written description can really push the interest into action.
Don’t just blab about how great you (surely) are; go with a ratio of stuff about you to what you’re seeking.
They published their findings this week in the journal Evidence Based Medicine.
DON’T: ONLY POST SELFIES Okay, this one is pretty intuitive, but look good in your primary photo. Including group photos makes you look more desirable, the study notes.People also look to cues like spelling and grammatical errors (it’s “they’re” not “there,” pal).Humor can give you the edge, but as they say in journalism, show, don’t tell.Creating your username is actually the second most important step to finding and attracting your ideal partner online.The first step if you didn’t already know, is to have an attractive online dating profile photo to catch attention in the first place.
Here’s how, per the researchers: crack a genuine smile (the kind that crinkles up your eyes a bit); tilt your head slightly; and, for women, wear red because that “enhances men’s attraction leading to significantly more contacts.” But don’t only post selfies, because, what else are you doing with your life besides taking pictures of your face? Women find a man more attractive when other women are smiling at him.