He is a projector and likes to pass off his feelings onto others.
And if we aren’t careful, this is a recipe for a disaster in marriage. Bitterness can creep into every crevice that you allow! I do not waste energy dreaming of him being here and or how our lives would be better if he didn’t travel. I learned long ago that no one was going to say to me “.” I had to choose to make sure that I took care of myself so I had more to give to my kids while my husband was away. When the children were little and had no understanding of time, we would count down “sleeps” until daddy was home. He has learned to adapt by mimicking the emotions of others whenever necessary.The dominant feelings found in a Narcissist are as follows: Anger: This is generally the default setting on the Narcissists emotional scale. The ifs and whens are not consistent, so you never know when it’s coming, or the level he will take it to.Smugness: When a Narcissists pulls one over on you he’s feeling pretty good about himself.If you’re hurting and pining for his return – that is shear bliss for him.
The small taste I have had of running the show alone gives me a deep respect for single moms across the globe who daily press on for the sake of their children. Now let’s turn the tables and take a look at our husbands. To work…to provide a paycheck, home, clothes and food for their family. I Timothy 5:8 says, If anyone does not provide for his family, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.