You can just be thinking, I’d like to get to know this girl better, I should ask her on a date. We consider relationships for weeks or even months before making a move.
If we start dating, we feel like the relationship has to be heading directly toward marriage.
It’s a problem that will require all of our courage, confidence and creativity to solve.
It’s a problem that affects many of our brothers in Christ—it might even be affecting you.
My concern is that we’re setting the wrong standards. Or maybe we aren’t concerned about whether a lady loves Gandalf as much as we do, but we do expect her to already be a saint.
In addition to the above, we’re also looking for bubbly extrovert with a great physique, a successful career and all the same interests (“You’re on to your fifth re-reading of Lord of the Rings as well? Not only does she need to have all of the virtues listed in the first paragraph, she needs to have them all the time, never stumbling.
Scruff has better filtering options and is more user-friendly than the others.
Ok Cupid and some of the other dating sites have these same options as well.
Each represents a woman that the groom dated and gave a piece of his heart to, before he had meet his bride.
A number of problematic attitudes crept into Christian culture.
So if you’re contemplating asking someone out for coffee, you don’t need to be quietly weighing her merits as the bearer of your progeny (in fact, it’s probably better that you aren’t).
It’s a chilling idea, and one that I think has certainly created some reluctance toward dating.
Harris’ book, and the many others like it in the ’90s and early 2000s, were written in reaction to society’s increasingly casual approach to love, sex and relationships—all of which are, by their nature, not meant to be casual.
How can cis gay guys find and date their trans counterparts?