“One was very stupid, and the other was a naggy, whiny wife, so you feel like she deserved it.I think people perceive straight wives as unsympathetic. We are never the heroes.” Her husband later moved to Florida with his lover, but the shame and torment experienced by so many gay husbands once married to straight women persisted.“In the Bible, they believe you don’t have sex before marriage.You don’t want someone who’s sexually aggressive and just out for your body.Kaye was a national leader in a militant Jewish group targeting Nazi war criminals living in the United States and fighting for the rights of persecuted Jews in Russia.
“In Brokeback Mountain, which I was very sickened by, they treat the wives as these weak, wimpy women,” Kaye says.
Bonnie Kaye is 63 and runs a GED center in a blighted stretch of northeast Philadelphia. It may be from recent health problems, complications from diabetes.
Yet so much more about Kaye seems, simply, exhausted.
I had a moment of weakness.” Kaye ran to the toilet and vomited.
She entered what she calls the bargaining phase of grief, allowing her husband to have sex with another man once every six months, but that couldn’t last.
“Subconsciously, what better guy to marry than a guy you know in your heart would never go with another woman?