If you open up the communication so he feels safe sharing his fantasy with you, it’ll only improve and help your relationship.As with any sexual fantasy, it’s best to discuss details beforehand.But when [we had sex] for the first time, she was wild. Kristie Overstreet Ph D suggests telling your partner that he can’t talk, touch, or even move unless he’s told to.Before I could even try to take off her clothes, she threw me back on the bed and blindfolded me with her bra," he remembers. I didn't lift a finger."For a softer approach, Brame suggests positions like reverse cowgirl, which prevent him from controlling the rhythm. Tell him if he disobeys you or doesn’t follow your directions, he’ll be punished.
While he might like he knows exactly what's up, no one ever wished for *less* direction in bed.
Save the ambiguity for pre-hookup sexting, and don’t be afraid to ask for what you really want.
If you’re worried about offending him (trust, you're not), just focus on the positives to tell him what you are and aren’t into.
If you’re in a rut, a surefire way to distract yourselves from the issue at hand is to try something out of your comfort zone.
Overstreet says that sex is often a way to release tension and stress.
Here, 11 of the most common sex *~cravings~* every guy has, and a non-awk way of bringing them up: Imagine sex is like a group project and you are obviously very invested in getting an A (or having an orgasm.) Your group members might be all talk but when it’s 3 AM the night before something’s due and you’re not ANY closer to that A, you might need to take control if you really wanna see it through. Show him the moves you use to get yourself off when you’re alone and let him in on the fantasy.