Others draw expansive boundaries, protecting even their smallest and least significant rights and emotions relentlessly. But before saying more about how they play into male-female dynamics, I want to illustrate the concept with a few examples... There is one seat available, but a businessman is using it for his laptop bag while he works intently on his computer.
The woman wants to sit down, and certainly has a right to the seat, but she will handle the situation differently depending on the strength of her boundaries.
If she has weak boundaries, the woman will probably just pretend nothing happened, assume that she must have misunderstood the plans, and maybe even apologize for the text she sent that night asking what happened (which he never answered).
Example 3 – A girl walking down the street is asked to contribute to an organization or charity whose ideals she does not believe in.
The book Why Men Love Bitches doesn't make this distinction strongly enough for my taste.
It skirts around a point that many women desperately need to hear without ever directly addressing it.
Upon inviting the guy she likes, he tells her that he'd like to come, but he has nothing neon to wear, and that he has no time between now and the party to buy something.The truth is that men are attracted to bitches, but we don't love them because they are bitches; we just love women that happen to be bitches.In other words, men are attracted to bitches for a quality other than their bitchiness - a quality that any woman (bitch or not) can have.Both strategies are dangerous because they are often partially successful, despite missing the real point.In any case, this criticism obviously begs the question: what are “bitchy” girls doing right?
If she has weak boundaries, she will be too nervous about upsetting him, and will tell herself "I can just stand, it isn't that far," which is exactly what she will do.