It seems that somehow my profile targets only those that are looking for money, or are spam. For example, the other night I got a message from a lady on Plenty Of and responded to her and then she quickly responded giving me her Yahoo screen name to IM her.
Though, recently, I learned that averages 10 percent paid profiles and 90 percent free profiles.
There are services that can do background checks for you, if you feel the person is worth looking into further.
is one that can tell you if the person is who she says she is, and if she has a criminal history.
They are relentless marketers, as this is a job for them.
They need to make as many contacts as possible—remember it’s a numbers game. You are doing the best you can by being smart and wary of potential fakers. Will enough singles get fed up with the not-so-great state of online dating and demand better from the industry? As a contributor to online dating industry forums, I continue to bring up the issues associated with fake profiles: liars, thieves and cheats, and the accountability of the industry for a solution.
Even if you put on your profile in bold letters, “No Fakers or Sex Industry Professionals,” it won’t help. My suggestion for your first contact, if you’re worried they’re not telling the truth, is to ask them outright. The standard industry reply is that “it’s not cost effective” and that “singles won’t pay for it.” Well, singles are “paying for it” in time, frustration, dissatisfaction and with their wallets.