And there’s no sense in ruling someone out for reasons that may become insignificant once you’ve met in real life.‘Only show me people without children’ ‘Only show me men over 6ft 1in’ ‘Only show me vegetarians’ ‘Only show me people who don’t want kids’ The tick-boxes on many dating sites are a common part of the structure of the sites – and people often fill them in and make their choices quickly, based on in-the-moment gut feeling, prejudice or a past bad experience.Cons: The lengthy survey you must complete before you sign up.It is 100s of questions long and asks many probing questions about religion and moral views.Pros: Free to join and to have limited contact with members.You can connect with Facebook so getting started is much quicker than with other sites.But too many filters and rigid check-boxes can have you dismiss huge numbers of people at once – something that apps like Bumble, Happn and Tinder tried to do away with (though that brings its own set of issues).
With judgemental tick-boxes they would have filtered out the very person they are in love with now.
Another friend is about to marry the short, bald banker with absolutely no ‘online dating’ message-type chat she met at a party.
As a 5ft 9in glamorous cocktail type who says she hates bankers, she freely admits she’d have swiped right past him on Tinder or blocked him on Match – and he may well have done the same.
When she reduced her height to 5ft 9in, that rocketed to almost 2,000.
A full 1,600 men would have unknowingly discounted this amazing person because of 2.5cm of extra leg length – and she would have continued to find internet dating limited and unsuccessful.
However, they do have a live help service at their homepage to talk you through joining.