If your conversations seem anything but easy, and you begin to catalog major idiosyncrasies about your date that irritate you while he or she is speaking, take note.One or two qualities that are new to you that you’re not sure about may not be a problem (and can even become cute to you over time as your feelings deepen), but if there are several can’t-stands emerging like exit signposts on the imagination superhighway in your mind, take heed.A first date transforms thoughts, feelings and pieced-together information into reality, and the big question on both you and your date’s mind is, “I like this person, but will there be enough chemistry? While is perfectly normal to feel some level of nervousness before a first date—you want to keep it in check.
In other cases, you may not be emotionally ready to date, especially if you’re still healing from a recent breakup.
A cold-fish handshake or quick half-hug-n-back-pat while uttering that he or she “had a great time” before running away from your door or speeding off as soon as you shut the car door is a bad sign. Even Greater Follow-Up First-date follow-up is crucial to a developing relationship’s early success.
At least one partner should call or send an e-mail to his date to thank her for the nice time within 2-3 days, and if there’s interest, an invitation for a second date will soon follow, or at least mention of going out again.
There are no commitment clauses, only an opportunity for great conversation and company.
When you put your interest in another person and what he or she is all about first above your insecure thoughts about yourself, the nervousness melts away and you can truly “be yourself.” On the other hand, less than positive anticipation toward a date can indicate that your feelings for the person that you’re meeting are not that strong.
During this small talk, you and your date are looking for commonalities that you share, such as a similar sense of humor and viewpoints on a variety of issues.