Please talk with your local pastor for guidance on this matter.
The Church has certain rules about how the marriage takes place (Code of Canon Law #1108-1123).
Catholic Wedding Help is in the process of reviewing the newly released edition and updating the related sections of the site to reflect the changes in the Order of Celebrating Matrimony.These rules are meant to ensure with certainty that a valid marriage actually took place.Basically, a valid marriage must be witnessed by an authorized representative of the Church (usually a priest or deacon) and two other witnesses."If there is not sufficient awareness on the couple's part of the essential elements of Catholic teaching on the sanctity of marriage and sexual relations and of the commitment, fidelity, and permanence needed in marriage, then the marriage should be postponed until such awareness has developed" (, Diocese of Rapid City; quoted in Marriage Preparation and Cohabiting Couples).A mature awareness of the nature of sacramental marriage contributes to a couple's ability to freely consent to marriage.
Usually, the marriage cannot take place until this happens.