And if they are intimidated, is that good intimidation (as I suspect), or is it more of a turn-off thing?I asked many of my friends who often get the “he is just intimidated by you” line why they think they fit the mold of a hard-to-approach gal.See intimidating people as telling you something non verbally – intimidating behaviour isn’t normal when someone isn’t being threatened or is not in fear.They are giving you behavioural cues that you can use to your advantage.Here’s what they told me: Abby: "I am very independent, and I love autonomy.[My girlfriends] see this in a positive light..of them wish they had more of a backbone and ask for my advice on how to emulate my demeanor." Katie: "I'm very direct.The more emotional intelligence one has the easier it is to deal with intimidation from others.As a general rule, I have often found that the people I encounter who are aggressive, judgemental, miserable, rude or just plain horrid usually have a reason for being the way they are.
Stick to the facts and take the dignified path always. Never be confrontational or belittling with intimidating people. Ironically, many intimidating people have learned this behaviour due to feeling powerless and unheard as children.
didn’t think so…) or you can choose to see the inner child in someone and experience the emotions associated with that thought.
Believe it or not, we all feel like children inside, no matter what age we are.
It helps you to see them as a person,who was once small and powerless just like you. We often get caught up in the hype surrounding a person – they’re the CEO of a huge corporation, they’re a celebrity..whatever it is, it can lead us to thoughts that don’t assist us.
We automatically put ourselves on the bottom end of the seesaw.
As a Psychologist, I find it easy to look beyond the behaviour to the underlying reasons. Having said that, understanding the reasons doesn’t automatically make me like someone! When we come across an angry and unhappy person, many of us take this behaviour personally. I remember when I worked at Broadmoor Hospital, we would have supervision to help us cope with the various personalities we had to deal with.