When Mrs Kabwe was widowed her in-laws summoned a distant cousin to exorcise the ghost.
She did not feel violated by the cleansing but relieved.
They have a national association based in the capital, Lusaka, founded by Agnes Phiri, a woman driven by the twin missions of upholding and modernising traditional marriage.
But Mrs Phiri cannot find funding - and international non-governmental organisations which fight Aids are not even aware of her existence.
If your husband is promiscuous you must keep it secret so as not to embarrass him." The woman must do nothing that could cause her husband to leave her - for the community will believe that she has failed to look after him - particularly in the bedroom.
Across sub-Saharan Africa 28.5 million people now carry the Aids virus - or nine per cent of adults aged 15 to 49.
Thousands of counsellors across Zambia teach brides-to-be their marriage duties.
The United Nations recently described the situation as "catastrophic".
Zambia is the fifth most afflicted country, with 22 per cent of its adults infected.
Education sessions are secret but I was admitted to one.
In a stuffy room, three spirited women beat for hours on drums.
Until that moment her life had been on hold: if a woman remarries before she is cleansed, the ghost will enter her new husband, driving him mad.